Essay

A married couple can be a harmonious couple if there is understanding and trust between the bride and the bridegroom. The trustworthy between them also influence the relationship or bonding between them. If either one of them can tolerate with the other one, their marriage or understanding can be strengthened, thus it will lead to trust between them. However, even a slight change of actions can lead to mistrust among married couple. And what will happen is divorce, which is the result of mistrust among married couple. There are several causes that causing the mistrusts between married couple. They are attitude, disloyalty and the miscommunication among the married couple.

The first main factor that can lead to mistrust between married couple is attitude of the couple. Most people enter marriages having lived on their own for a while these days. When you marry someone, though, you no longer live alone, and you are no longer only responsible for yourself. For example, the man somehow still with his old habit of going out at night with his friends. Other than that, the woman may still with her own habit that like spend too much money on shopping. For example, they cannot save the budget for future usage of their family, but she still spending a lot of money buying make-ups and accessories. Furthermore, both of the married couple or their partner may actively seek to degrade his or her partner through harsh language. They may always quarrel on small matters, without thinking about their companion’s feelings. Thus, in order to stay harmony, the couple should tolerate with each other.

The second factor is disloyalty among the married couple. This usually happens when one side of the couple starts to being disloyal. For example, some husband enjoys their life outside more than helping their spouse managing home by looking for other woman to fulfill their lust. Furthermore, the female couple may somehow always disagree with their husband’s decisions. For example, the wife do not want follow their husband go back to his village to celebrate Eid but she insisted to celebrate it at her village. Other than that, either one the couple may somehow lie to their mate. When this happens, the disloyalty between them will appear. Thus, disloyalty also is the factor that leads to mistrust among married couple.

Finally, the factor that leads to mistrust among married couple is miscommunication. Loving communication means that you are willing to share and talk about your lives together. When this not occurs, the couple will start to quarrel with each other. In addition, these couples may somehow quarrel without trying to solve the problems slowly. For example, they may have miscommunication because both of them speak to each other once a while because both of them work. Other than that, when any of the parties starts feeling that there are some things they don't know, insecurity sets in and if not checked divorce ensues. Thus, if there's a problem in your marriage and you try the silent routine and try to stay silent, you are heading for divorce.

In conclusion, mistrust between married couples is the main aspect that will lead to the divorce of them. In order to maintain the harmonious condition in our marriage, we should somehow try to tolerate with our mate. Also, we need to avoid being harsh with our mate. So, we must be good with our mate in order to maintain our marriage.